Splitting Up the Holidays with Your Ex

 Posted on November 07, 2013 in Kane County family law attorney

Thanksgiving is right around the corner. By the time that holiday is over, the winter holidays will be in full swing. If you are getting a divorce or are divorced around this time, it can make the holidays even more stressful. There are steps you can take now to limit the aggravation of sharing the holidays between you and your ex.

The best thing to do is plan with your ex as much as possible. Having a set plan for when each parent will spend time with the children will eliminate most of the stress of the holidays. Also take time to talk to other extended family members to see who will be in town or will be free when you have your children.

It is important to consider fairness when splitting up custody during the holidays but it might not be the best way to think about it. Rotating the holidays from year to year will make sure that parents get to celebrate each holiday with their children. 'But always keep in mind what is in the best interest of the children rather than the fairest option for the parent. Try not to make your older children feel bad for you if you have to spend a holiday alone. Also younger children might not be comfortable being carted around to many different places in order to fulfill your desires.

The transitions between the households can be challenging for both the children and the adults. Do what you can to smooth out these bumps. Consider telling your children ahead of time so they can prepare to be picked up or dropped off from their festivities. Also try to keep them rested and fed so that your ex can have a nice time with them as well.

The holidays can be about traditions. If you are divorced it might be a good idea to come up with new traditions for your new family. If you are seeking a divorce, then it is a good idea to contact an experienced'family law attorney in Batavia today.