How Do I Know When It Is Time to File for an Illinois Divorce?

 Posted on March 04, 2022 in Divorce

Before most of us get married, we have idealistic ideas about relationships and how easy our lives will be once we find “the one.” On the day of your wedding, it can be hard to imagine that divorce could ever be on the horizon. Yet relationships are complicated, and the prevalence of divorce is well known.

Spouses in Illinois sometimes get divorced for clear-cut issues like domestic violence and infidelity. But for others, the question of when to leave a relationship can be more complicated. A good spouse does not have to be a perfect person, and life’s challenges can make even the best couple question their ability to overcome a tough time. But when does a tough time last for long enough to make you doubt the permanence of your relationship? While only you can know whether it is right to file for divorce, here are some signs that it may be time to go your separate ways.

You Are Not Longer Intimate - And You Do Not Care

Couples naturally go through periods where one spouse is more interested in sex than the other. Sometimes, neither spouse expresses much interest in intimacy. As long as each partner feels comfortable and communication is open, these periods do not have to pose any threat. But when you stop being intimate with your partner and no longer care, this may be a sign that something more serious is afoot. In general, when one or both partners is not interested in addressing problems that bother the other partner, it does not bode well for the future of the relationship.

Your Long-Term Values Do Not Align

Many couples are so caught up in the feelings of love and romance at the beginning of the relationship that they do not stop to discuss their long-term vision for the future. But issues like a sick parent, a major career change, or a child’s wellbeing can suddenly bring to light the fact that a couple has fundamentally different views of the world and how to act in it. When a couple struggles to articulate their values or cannot see eye-to-eye on important decisions, a divorce may be inevitable.

You Are Both Way Too Busy

Couples who avoid spending time together can often cover up the true reason for a long time. Children, work, and even hobbies can take away from necessary one-on-one time and prevent partners from facing the fact that they just do not want to spend time together. This is part of the reason that the divorce rate boomed during the early stage of the COVID pandemic - couples who had successfully managed to avoid each other for years were suddenly stuck in the same house with little to do but spend time together. If you dread the idea of days on end with your partner, it may be time to reconsider the longevity of your marriage.

Meet with a Kane County Divorce Lawyer

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Sources:

https://www.womansday.com/relationships/dating-marriage/advice/g2587/signs-your-marriage-might-be-over/

https://www.ilga.gov/legislation/ilcs/ilcs4.asp?DocName=075000050HPt%2E+IV&ActID=2086&ChapterID=59&SeqStart=3900000&SeqEnd=5400000